Congratulations! You’ve been asked to be a bridesmaid for your best friend who you love dearly. You’re beyond excited, then even better you find out your pregnant! What are your first thoughts regarding the wedding? Worry? Pure joy?
First things first, if you’re planning to be trying for a baby it is probably best for you to confide in your friend and tell her. Then there will be no shock factor about you being pregnant on the big day and they’ll be plenty of time to sort out anything that needs to be changed or amended. However, everyone is different and you may not feel comfortable about telling anyone you’re trying for a baby. This is perfectly fair enough, you have to do what is best for you and your life. If your friend is a real friend she will understand and be happy for you either way.
No bride has the right to be angry that one of her bridesmaids are pregnant. It’s an unbelievably special time in a persons life and chances are your friend will be more than happy about it! However there are some things you need to consider if you are going to be or hoping to be pregnant at the time of the wedding.
Is it a destination wedding?
If you are heading to a destination wedding and know that you’re either pregnant or trying for a baby, it’s definitely best to tell this to the bride. There will be a chance that you won’t be able to fly or travel in months to come, and it’s far better to be honest.
How far gone will you be?
Depending on how many weeks you’ll be on the big day there are lots of options for you. If you feel that it’s no bother at all, then let your friend know that of course you’d still love to be a bridesmaid. If you’ll be heavily pregnant at the time or if it’s beyond your due date, then it’s best to be realistic and think about whether or not you’ll be able to carry out these bridesmaid duties or even attend the wedding.
Will you be okay and willing to stand on your feet for many hours during the day?
There’s no doubt about it, of course there’s a lot more standing and bride tribe duties required than simply attending the wedding as a guest. The bride-to-be has chosen you and that means more photo opportunities, more running around and probably more dancing! Make sure you’re aware to take it easy and sit down when needed.
You and the bride-to-be will obviously need to be aware that the pregnancy will change your body and you’ll need to have your dress altered or buy a couple of sizes bigger, so you have the fabric needed to amend the size of your bridesmaid dress and the expanding bump! In many cases this is no issue, multiway dresses are a fabulous stretchy choice these days for bridesmaids as they are so adaptable and can sit high above the bump. There are so many maternity dresses available online these days, there’s really no reason for this to be an issue. Discover gorgeous collections from brands like ASOS and Etsy which have a huge selection on offer.